Timeout: Why I Chose to Not Share My Daughter’s Lives and Photos on Public Social Media
Recently I uploaded a photo to Instagram of a lunch I made for the girls and I. It was a Saturday, I was overloaded with homework and in need of a trip to the grocery store. But children get hungry. Especially our youngest who enjoys breakfast, second breakfast, elevensies, etc., and they aren’t shy about being vocal in sharing their hunger. I threw together what I had, Cappellos gluten free gnocchi, asparagus, brown butter ghee, ground lamb, sage, and spinach. It was a pretty plate so I snapped a photo, posted it, and went back to my homework as the girls enjoyed their lunch.
Then I got the comments. That my children don’t exist. That they must be imaginary. That they must be some words I will not repeat in regards to my lovely bright sunshiny funny girls and no ‘real’ Mom could get her children to eat that way. I was asked to prove my children would eat that lunch. I deleted the comments.
When I decided to change my life with what I eat, I subsequently changed the lives of my whole family. The girls eat what we eat, mostly without complaint. They love vegetables. Being human and having cravings and wanting to enjoy life they also enjoy treats, the youngest will choose watermelon over candy any day. But I do not need to prove this to anyone by showing photos or videos of them eating and loving their vegetables, lamb, bone broths, gelatin gummies, or any of the meals they enjoy. Friends and family know this. The girls know this. It is what it is.
I’m no stranger to posting cute photos of my children to my personal Facebook page. I share photos of them being silly, performing in a play, eating giant turkey legs, or playing in the sunshine. I’m a proud parent with beautiful children and I love documenting our lives in photographs. But it’s not for public consumption. It’s for me, for them, for their Dad, for our family, and our friends. For our family we feel more comfortable not to share every moment with strangers.
I chose to work online and help others with their nutritional needs and to improve their lives. I chose to put myself out there into the world of the internet where people can be mean, cruel, and hateful, but they can also be inspiring. My children did not choose this. Even before I started this work online I would not post photos of my children publicly online that identified them. I have posted photos without their gorgeous smiling faces, such as the photos above, but I choose to respect their privacy. I promise I do have children that have heads and faces, I just don’t share those heads and faces. They are perfectly capable of choosing to share moments of their lives when they are older and understand the implications of doing this. Until then, as their Momma, I made the choice to not share this huge aspect of my life with the world.
I have no problem with other families who do not feel the same way I do and post photos of their children. I’m often the first person to like these photos as they often make me smile, laugh, and I love seeing how they have grown over the years. No shade to any parent who does this. I love seeing your children and your pets! I like them much more than your extreme close up selfies which are startling when I’m catching up on social media first thing in the morning. I respect this choice.
The internet can be a wonderful uplifting positive place, or it can be negative. I promote the wonderful and will not tolerate the negative. Play nice or don’t play at all.